The Silent Retraumatisation of Sexual Abuse Victims We Don’t Talk About Enough

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“There is nothing untoward in his examination yet I am not in control and this touch is not wanted and it’s too much and I am unclothed and vulnerable and overwhelmed with triggers and the only escape I have in that moment is disassociation.
 
The switch flips; in less than one second I am mentally and emotionally no longer present, retraumatised by a simple and routine medical procedure deemed necessary to potentially save my life.
 
It takes me weeks to recover and find my way back to myself again.
 
Two years later, a reminder letter comes in the mail.
 
I throw it in the bin.”
 

I don’t often publish my articles on my blog, but I want to share this one with you today.

Having a Pap smear is an uncomfortable moment for most women. For survivors of childhood sexual abuse, it’s nothing less than traumatic.

There is not enough help or support for those in this situation, with three out of four women denying themselves life-saving care because the fear of being retraumatised is greater than the fear of cervical cancer.

There needs to be more discussion, more awareness, more understanding, and more care for both victims of sexual abuse and violence and the people who care for them.

This article was incredibly difficult to write, but needs to be read.

Full article over at 10 daily today, link below x

Why A Routine Trip To The GP Leaves Me Mentally And Emotionally Shaken

 

#IWD2019

May we be women who do not judge the way another woman walks when we have not seen the dirt on her knees.

Who do not push another woman out of her lane when we are running the same race.

Who do not compete against another woman but cheer her on instead.

Who remind another woman of how kick arse she is when she has forgotten herself.

May we be these women, and may we raise them.

“As for my girls, I’ll raise them to think they breathe fire” ~ Jessica Kirkland.

Shout out to all the incredible women in my life; the mentors, the nurturers, the warriors.

The ones who have shown me everything it means to be a woman ❤️

#IWD2019